So yesterday I became the mother of a teen! I honestly am shocked at how quickly life passes by. My oldest son is a truly unique and wonderful boy. He loves God, his family and Minecraft so very much!!
I am so proud of the accomplishments he’s made. He was diagnosed with Autism with P.D.D when he was just 4. Up to that point, I just assumed I was a bad mother. Truly! He was often unhappy and would cry whenever it was time to leave somewhere to go home. I had a 3,2,1 and newborn and I’d have to scoop him up in one arm, grab the diaper bag and car seat and wrangle the two other toddlers out to the car with Frankie kicking and screaming and people staring.
He has always been sensitive to light and touch. I use to have to pin him down to cut his nails or brush his teeth. Many times my wonderful husband would jump in there to help me. Whenever, he would be playing quietly with his toys, one of his siblings would come up and try to touch “one” thing that Frankie was trying to line up and he would lose his mind and start kicking and screaming. He also didn’t potty train until he was 5 1/2 years old.
Those were very trying days, until he was around 8 or 9 he needed to be reminded of every single thing. His mind wanders constantly. He can get fixated on one thing for hours. He would NEVER complete a chore, or get dressed when he was asked or do anything for himself independently. Most of those things he still struggles with, but now he is able to communicate with me better. He does still think he is right about everything though.
He is an amazing, mostly self-taught student. When it comes to his schoolwork I just have to tell him what I expect and he will complete it quickly. He loves knowledge. He learned to read and multiply by the age of 5 and he was dividing at 6. By 9 he knew more Geography than all of the adults he knew. He is so much smarter than I ever was as a child and believe me I was no slouch.
I told him he was autistic all along and really started discussing what that meant with him when he was around 10. I asked him last year if he would have rather I not told him about his Autism. He said “I’m glad you did Mom because it helps me understand why people react to me the way that they do.” So insightful.
I really am so proud of him. He has had to overcome bullying, being left out, being told he couldn’t do things. But he is not a quitter, he has so much self-confidence and gumption. He participates in Scouts Canada, A.W.A.N.A and Cadets. He’ll be starting in Air Cadets this June.
This boy is going to accomplish great things. He wants to travel the world and bring Bibles to those languages that do not have any. Do you know there are over 6000 languages and only 2000 of them have Bibles translated. That is not O.K with Frankie.
He’s off to Klondyke camp with the Scouts this weekend. He loves camping and has earned all of his camping permits. I personally wouldn’t find camping in the winter fun, but he is all for it. He’s such a go-getter. I can’t wait to see what else will come his way.